Imaginary drama and the art of positive possibility
While worth its weight in gold, the smile will actually make you feel lighter.
“Find the good. Be inspired.” That’s the tag of this blog and the direction I’m headed in. So why do I often times think of worst case scenarios? Not the average “this could happen, and then that would happen,” internally narrated scenarios. No. I go so far as to think of actual conversations. I determine what someone would say to me and, accordingly, what I–with all my fervor and fury–would say back to them.
At times, it’d get out of hand because I’d really get worked up about it. Then, I started checking myself with a gentle reminder that none of this has actually manifested, but that getting so worked up that my emotional state changes could possibly prompt other contentious situations. The calm would return and life would continue as it was–in reality.
The trigger is usually something small and relatively unimportant, but it’d turn into a big dramatic scene in my head. Why? Because I would anticipate the worst. Go for whatever hair-raising scenario I could create and mentally strike back. This tactic is so completely counterproductive to my proclaimed philosophy.
“Find the good. Be inspired.” is essentially about the art of positive possibility in creating meaning. Everyday, all day, we go through a process of determining the value of the situations and interactions in our lives. Deciding that a situation with pressure will turn into a situation with stress before feasible evidence presents itself isn’t an attempt to discover the positive possibility.
Albert Einstein is quoted as saying, Ã¢â‚¬Å“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.Ã¢â‚¬Â
Live as though everything is a miracle. Find the good. It’s there. In every situation. Sometimes, it seems like a stretch, but every single time I’ve declared some virtue about something that didn’t seem to have a virtuous appeal, I felt much better about the temporary discomfort.
Be inspired by whatever that ‘good’ is for you to create value for others. Model the attitude. Allow yourself to be moved in the direction that your positive stance will take you.
Should you find yourself going off on a tangent that’ll take you away from the calm and inspired place you seek to be, just bring yourself back with a reminder that while you may not be able to change or control the situation, you can change and control your response–real and imaginary.