We are a process.

when are you going to change?

I am a process. You are a process. We are a process. Each of us is perpetually ‘becoming’. There is no [natural] end. What doesn’t grow is dead.

Perfection is illusory, yet I strive to manifest it in the most possible way by simply being better. Sometimes, I fail. Sometimes, I succeed. Some lessons take a while to truly get and some changes take longer to implement than desired. Everything in its course as everything happens in its own time. Knowing that, however, shouldn’t negate exercising effort.

Just today, I told my cousin how I feel like a late bloomer in some ways. She said, “I don’t think you’re a late bloomer, you just have your own lessons to learn and you will. Be patient with yourself, you’ll get it in God’s time.”

I’m not who I was and at some point, I won’t be who I am now. The term “growing pains” is appropriate for so many phases in life, if not the sum of it. Growth–change–can hurt. Does hurt. But taking refuge in stagnation is no remedy.

You are a process, always becoming who you will be.  People will try to confine you to who you were or who they’d like you to be, but “I” is beyond definition because “I” is not static.  You are transforming regularly.  You change your ideas, modify your behavior, set different goals and declare new resolutions.  Who you have been and who you are now is not who you will be.  Evolve.  You are a process.  So is everybody else.  Remember that.

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”
– Alice Walker

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April 20, 2010 | filed under consider this, moment of truth, pay attention, rewritable words 


4 Responses to “We are a process.”

  1. Udoka_a on April 20th, 2010 3:40 am

    Growth has its stages.. I feel blessed to be at the stage I’m at. But, I yearn for MORE! But, i see it’ll come.
    #DOPE read

  2. Leandra on April 20th, 2010 4:25 pm

    🙂 thank you, udoka. don’t we always yearn for more? isn’t that the perpetual longing of those that succeed?

  3. Udoka_a on April 21st, 2010 2:39 am

    yes! it is…. hopefully my statement of saying ‘YES’ will be worth it when I actually ‘succeed’

  4. Leandra on April 21st, 2010 2:41 am

    i have no doubt it will be.

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