dreams + friends = success? well…
It’s important to have aspirations in life. Goals that stretch you to do more, be more, have more provide you with both challenges and opportunities. The challenges make you stronger and smarter and amongst the many opportunities that pop up, most important are the opportunities to manifest your dreams and to discover more about yourself in the process.
There is some debate over whether or not sharing your goals is helpful. Some say by sharing your objectives with others, you feel more accountable to reach them. Others, like CD Baby founder Derek Sivers, says you’re less likely to fulfill your goals because when congratulated on the act of just setting a goal, the brain gets a sort of satisfaction that leaves you feeling closer to your goal, even having made little or no progress towards achieving it. Perhaps that’s why today, I get to face my accountability partner and say, “Hey, so I need one more week,” although the date we settled on—this past weekend—provided me with more than enough time to do what I needed to do.
Regardless of whether or not you choose to discuss your intentions with them, I’m learning that the people you surround yourself with are major factors in your success, failure, or mediocrity. Energy is contagious. It’s difficult to be around self-directed, ambitious people when you yourself have no drive. Likewise, the opposite is true. When you want to achieve so much more than the people around you, you’re the odd man out. The support and contagion of accomplishment isn’t in your network.
When I spend time with other big thinkers, and even more importantly, big doers, I’m left with a healthy sense of “I’m not doing enough” or “I’m not being enough” that urges me towards greater action.
So peace to my support network and inspiring friends. I appreciate who you are and what you have to offer. In an email with my sister where we discussed this, she wrote, “Oprah isn’t friends with slackers.” Indeed, Oprah isn’t friends with slackers. Whether or not Oprah is your least or most favorite person, she’s definitely an icon for success.
Birds of a feather flock together. Choose the right* flock.
* Right being a matter of distinction based upon what is fitting for your personality, lifestyle, and goals.