What My World's Like

friends and lovers


There’s a couple I’ve seen at my job a few times. One of the last times they came in, we started talking about my hair and the husband mentioned how his hair was when he was a teenager.

“It’s true. We were dating back then,” the wife said.

I asked how long they’d been together.

Thirty-four years.

“If you could give me just one key to making it last, what would it be?” I asked.

The wife looked at the husband for a split second, then looked at me and said, “Be friends. We really like each other.”

“Lust is easy. Romance is easy. You have to really like the person, like who they are and enjoy being around them. All the other stuff is easy.” the husband added.

I just smiled as they talked. Then, the wife asked me if I had a boyfriend.

With a big smile, I said, “No, but I have a friend.”

I saw that same couple yesterday and made a point to tell them how often I think of their words. Turns out they were celebrating their anniversary, their daughter’s birthday, and the birth of their first grandchild. 🙂

Love is a beautiful imperative.

6 Responses to friends and lovers

  1. I agree! Love IS a beautiful imperative.

    love your post lady…and you too 🙂

  2. 🙂 i love you too!

  3. I just recently got into a new relationship and we were discussing ways to make it last. This Sunday morning, I wanted him to see your blog so I logged in and we read this post. He looked at me and said, “I think we found our answer.” We have decided to focus on our friendship, rather than the relationship.

  4. I Like this. 🙂
    “Be friends, we really like each other.” So So true.

  5. A few years back, I wrote a note to my bf that said: “Friends first, lovers second” <–I live by it! Glad I learned "the secret" early on. 🙂

  6. This is so cute! 🙂
    I’m def. going to have my boyfriend read this. It’s really good advice. 😀

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