Vision

January 17, 2008 | Filed Under Consider this, Moment of Truth, Pay attention 

After looking for a job as a server for months, I finally got one last month.  The experience has been a ball of both met expectations and surprises.  It’s really a sort of human study.

In dealing with lots of people that act like jackasses towards their server, I’ve decided not to carry the burden of someone else’s negativity.  I used to walk away thinking “what an a**,” but I’m finding myself doing that less and less now that I’ve discovered a new strategy: prayer.

Instead of being upset by someone’s actions towards me that have nothing to do with me, I pray that they get the opportunity to see themselves and experience what they’re being.  I’m praying for their karma to come around.  It will anyway; it’s a universal law, but in addition to wanting them to experience what they are being, I want them to realize what they are being.

Self-awareness is such a gift and so important to our development and progress as people.  If you don’t know better, you can’t do better.

I seek to use all the opportunities in my life for growth.  Can I honestly say that I’m always successful?  Absolutely not, but I’m working on it.  Part of the working on it is being in tune to who and what I’m being and the impact that it has on others.

A few weeks ago, I was running late for work and walking expediently down the street to get there.  This kid–okay, young man–wanted to talk to me but not enough to speed up to walk with me.  He wanted me to stop.  First thing’s first: if I’m in a hurry and you want to talk to me–about anything–honor my speed and catch up or shut up.  He wanted to ask for my phone number, but instead of saying, “I’m not interested, I have a boyfriend,” I said, “I’m going to work.” 

What does that really mean to someone though?  Shortly after that interaction, I realized that I probably didn’t leave the most favorable impression and that if he felt some kind of way towards me or women he likened me to, I couldn’t really be mad–I helped to create that impression. 

So what am I saying?  We create the “monsters” in our society and will continue to until we realize that somewhere part of that monster exists in us.  Maybe not in its entirety, but along some lines, we can relate.  Until we recognize who and what we’re being, we’re doomed to continue down a path of self-righteousness, victimhood, and self-delusion.  And it ain’t worth it.

Seek to see yourself and pray for others that need to see themselves too.  In the process, you’ll free up some of your karmic debt.  Awesome.

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