July 14, 2009 | Filed Under My life changed when...
I was once a half-hearted fatalist.Â Everything happened for a reason, but the undesirable moments were flukes.Â “What did I do to deserve this?Â There must be some kind of mistake.”Â As such, I fully embraced the victim mentality and chose to believeÂ I had little power over outcomes in my life.Â I was wading in a pool of uncertainty and insecurity, and downright miserable because of it.
There was, however, a turning point.Â Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting and Conversations With GodÂ Â destroyed me in a veryÂ constructive way.Â For the first time, I truly reconsidered my conditioning.Â I began to toss out and reconstruct old paradigms, one of whichÂ was my idea of personal power.Â Â
Old paradigm: things happen at a fickle and, apparently, cruel God’s whim.Â
New paragdim: things outside of our control may happen to us, but our responses to those events matter more than the events themselves.Â
Fast forward to several years later and that paradigm is still being refined and intertwinedÂ into my behavior.Â Intellectually, the concept made sense, but hadn’t yet fully made its way into consistent practice.Â I realized I needed to “find the good.”Â So I started this blog.Â After a few rough starts and several months, I began toÂ live the credo.Â Now, I have to find the good, that tranformative element that makes a situation worthwhile: What am I supposed to learn or change?Â How can this be of benefit to me or others?
Since discarding the old, whimsicalÂ paradigm, I have discovered a sense a power and control in my life that allows me to simulateneously be moved by my own determination while being movedÂ by a power infinitely more intelligent than I.Â Â Neither our stories nor our struggles are our own.Â Â There is a great deal of catharsisÂ and power in sharing your story andÂ supporting others with similarÂ experiences.Â Â
Perhaps you’ve experienced something of great magnitude and pain to deepen your capacity for understanding and healing.Â How we use an experience is our choice.Â If you believe that everything happens for a reason, finding and creating meaning are one and the same.Â
Find the good.
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