What My World's Like

ending the war: “i love you still.”

Mar
24

Recently, I asked “do you talk about things that matter?” and today I experienced one of the most emotionally honest conversations I’ve ever had. Topics ranged from absentee fathers, sex, eating disorders, rape, molestation, relationships, education, socialization, etc. It was genuine, cathartic, comforting, inspiring and beautiful. So many times throughout the evening, I found myself smiling, feeling connected and understood as we discussed highly privatized events and feelings.

Sitting with this beautiful woman who spoke so candidly about her life, I felt inspired and reinvigorated, reminded that neither our stories nor our struggles are our own. We will all experience trials, intense pain, and loss. We will all walk with fears, insecurities, and moments of doubt. We will all struggle with some degree of feeling fragmented. These are inextricable parts of the human experience, but if you let pain harden your heart instead of soften it, you’ve missed the point.

As of two days ago, I made an important decision based upon a startling revelation. I’m ending the war with myself.

My #notetoself yesterday was:

“stop waging war with the one person who will always be there for you: yourself.
love is accepting, patient, and kind.”

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Authenticity

Oct
06

100% the real deal

More than anything, I believe that people are looking for authenticity–in themselves, in their lives, in others, individually and collectively. This authenticity should manifest itself in the form of relationships consistently built on and representative of trust, honesty, and acceptance; careers that are extensions of our talents, abilities, and interests; personal lives that echo the visions we have for them. We want to be ourselves, surround ourselves with people who accept us as we are, remain true to our ourselves and maintain our integrity in our careers. In other words, be who we are and do what we want to do. It’s a rather simple idea.

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