While worth its weight in gold, the smile will actually make you feel lighter.
“Find the good. Be inspired.” That’s the tag of this blog and the direction I’m headed in. So why do I often times think of worst case scenarios? Not the average “this could happen, and then that would happen,” internally narrated scenarios. No. I go so far as to think of actual conversations. I determine what someone would say to me and, accordingly, what I–with all my fervor and fury–would say back to them.
At times, it’d get out of hand because I’d really get worked up about it. Then, I started checking myself with a gentle reminder that none of this has actually manifested, but that getting so worked up that my emotional state changes could possibly prompt other contentious situations. The calm would return and life would continue as it was–in reality.
The trigger is usually something small and relatively unimportant, but it’d turn into a big dramatic scene in my head. Why? Because I would anticipate the worst. Go for whatever hair-raising scenario I could create and mentally strike back. This tactic is so completely counterproductive to my proclaimed philosophy.
“Find the good. Be inspired.” is essentially about the art of positive possibility in creating meaning. (more…)