What My World's Like

ending the war: “i love you still.”

Mar
24

Recently, I asked “do you talk about things that matter?” and today I experienced one of the most emotionally honest conversations I’ve ever had. Topics ranged from absentee fathers, sex, eating disorders, rape, molestation, relationships, education, socialization, etc. It was genuine, cathartic, comforting, inspiring and beautiful. So many times throughout the evening, I found myself smiling, feeling connected and understood as we discussed highly privatized events and feelings.

Sitting with this beautiful woman who spoke so candidly about her life, I felt inspired and reinvigorated, reminded that neither our stories nor our struggles are our own. We will all experience trials, intense pain, and loss. We will all walk with fears, insecurities, and moments of doubt. We will all struggle with some degree of feeling fragmented. These are inextricable parts of the human experience, but if you let pain harden your heart instead of soften it, you’ve missed the point.

As of two days ago, I made an important decision based upon a startling revelation. I’m ending the war with myself.

My #notetoself yesterday was:

“stop waging war with the one person who will always be there for you: yourself.
love is accepting, patient, and kind.”

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Are you friends or enemies?

Jul
20

With whom, you ask? With yourself. With your body. Male or female, how does what you see in the mirror affect the way you interact with yourself and others?

While perusing CHEERUPNATION, I found this video from Operation Beautiful and was touched by its mission to remind women of their beauty and end “fat talk”.

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A topic about every body

May
13

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TONIGHT’S TOPIC: Body Image – How and/or does it affects men and women differently? Why isn’t it discussed if body image issues are so prevalent? What are possible ways to overcome a negative body image?

Addendum: The University of New Hampshire has a pretty good brochure about transforming body image that lists some excellent starting points. During the show, I mentioned Maxwell Maltz’s Psycho-Cybernetics and Creative Living for Today, as well as Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. I’m particularly fond of the 1999 gift edition. To that list, I’d also like to add Marcia Germaine Hutchinson’s Transforming body image: learning to love the body you have.

Be the best you and learn to love yourself as you are and in the process of becoming that “best you”. Get rid of beliefs and ideals that don’t serve you. They were created to serve someone; if they aren’t serving you, they aren’t for you, so why hold on? If you’re complaint about your body is something that is within your power to change, commit to changing it, but it’s not necessary to be compulsive or unloving to yourself in the process.

”We are so busy obsessing over what is wrong with us – whether it’s our weight, misproportion, wrinkles, pimples, excess hair or functional limitations – that we fail to develop our potential as human beings. If we could harness a tiny fraction of the energy and attention wasted in body hate and use it as fuel for creativity and self-development, just think how far we could travel toward our life goals.”
– Marcia Germaine Hutchinson