When we are honest with our emotions, however dark they may be,
we invite others to be real and to face their own pain.
And then real transformation can occur – that’s how we are going to fix this planet.
But when we suppress, when we are fake, we send a message out to others
that they need to be fake too and hold in their truth.
This is how things will remain the same.
Today, be real. You don’t need to be anyone else but who you are.
Being honest helps the rest of us find our truth.
– Yehuda Berg
More than anything, I believe that people are looking for authenticity–in themselves, in their lives, in others, individually and collectively. This authenticity should manifest itself in the form of relationships consistently built on and representative of trust, honesty, and acceptance; careers that are extensions of our talents, abilities, and interests; personal lives that echo the visions we have for them. We want to be ourselves, surround ourselves with people who accept us as we are, remain true to our ourselves and maintain our integrity in our careers. In other words, be who we are and do what we want to do. It’s a rather simple idea.
The other day, the message of the Kabbalah Tune-Up was:
If you want people to love you– who doesn’t — then show them your faults, not your virtues.
We are all afraid of this, especially us first born sons who bear the weight of the world on our shoulders. But honesty is all there is. We all feel messed up inside and when we see ourselves in others, we can connect and heal. And then we can get somewhere deeper.
Today, encourage people to be who they are by showing them who you are.
All too often, many of us hold back who we truly are, fearing how others will take us. The thing is you can’t compromise yourself and who you really are, nor should you be apologetic aboutÂ who you are. None of us is for everyone.Â All opposites don’t attract; many repel.
When we’ve put the worst on the table, everything else is so much more palatable. After all, it’s the ‘undesirable’ elements we’re so afraid will drive people away.Â Yet none of us are perfect and sometimes the things we’re not too fond of in ourselves are appreciated by others; that isn’t necessarily a good or bad thing.Â The reality is that when we’re open and honest about who we are and what we want, in our words and our being, we are able to better align ourselves with others with others who, in theirÂ words and being, can support and facilitate our visions for ourselves and our lives.
For varying reasons, some parts of our selves stay in our shells.Â I’ve found that other people’s openness and honesty inspires me to be less reserved about sharing parts of my personality.
Inspire someone today toÂ be themselves by being yourself.Â You may never even know if your doing so touches anyone, but rest assured–it does.