Monday Motivation: new beginnings are ready when you are

August 3, 2009 | filed under challenge, moment of truth | Leave a Comment 

fork in the road
Every choice is a sort of crossroad; they aren’t all big and dramatic. Continue as before? Begin again?

You can start over any time you choose.  Sometimes, things go wrong consistently enough that you have to evaluate the best course of action.  Consider walking away as a viable option.

I’m not sure if it’s the unknown prospects of the future or the current comfort of the familiar that prevents us from starting anew, even when we know it’s quite probably the best thing we could do.  Still, many times the fear of either starting or letting go paralyzes us into a remaining in an uncomfortable situation.

But only for as long as we choose.

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Letting go of holding on

February 20, 2009 | filed under consider this | 1 Comment 

The other day I was thinking about someone I know.  They work this job that they don’t truly seem to care so much about just looking at their actions.  When you talk to them, though, they profess otherwise.  The office dynamics are screwed and they don’t seem to be the most highly regarded person in the office.  But according to them, they are where they want to be.

In thinking about this person, I wondered why they wanted to stay at the job so bad?  Why hold onto a gig that clearly wasn’t working out?  If they stay, there will always be contention in the office amongst their co-workers.

“Why not just let it go?” I thought.

Sometimes our hands are so tightly clasped around what we have that we can’t open them to receive anything else, especially in ignoring all the signs that scream “this isn’t working.”

As I recollected over this situation that wasn’t even mine, I began to feel really guilty and intrusive, as though I wasn’t minding my business.  Then, I flipped the investigation around and started examining myself.

There are certainly relationships, habits, and beliefs I’m holding onto that aren’t working out for me.  Yet, I continue to hold on.

Maybe it’s time to let go.

Deep down, I do believe that everything happens for a reason.  I believe in signs.  Perhaps what we think is just madness in our lives is sometimes madness and sometimes it’s something else.  Maybe an indication that something needs to give.  Wouldn’t acknowledging that be finding the good?

What do you need to let go of?