What My World's Like

on openness.

Jan
05


I have an admission.

The recent absence of my online presence isn’t exclusively related to being busy or mentally preoccupied. That’s part of it. Another part of it, actually, the biggest part of it, is the recurring struggle I’ve had with allowing myself to be open. I’m set on finding the balance between protecting myself and my life and being an open book. I’d like to share myself in a thoughtful, meaningful way, not recklessly over-share.

Posing this dilemma to a friend, he said, “But the work you do requires you to be honest. All creatives have to be.” It hit me, as it occasionally does at times before disappearing again, that there is something to this process, to this learning and sharing of mine. It isn’t haphazard or reckless; it’s necessary — for me and for whomever my words touch. I forget that my brand of creativity is more specific to how I think and applying understanding to grow. The art that resonates the most is that which is the most honest. My work will only resonate with others when I’m brave enough to open up and share my journey.

So, there it is. I struggle with being open. I struggle with maintaining clarity about my path. But I get it back. I’m here for a purpose and I unfailingly believe in purpose.

I’ll stop being scared. I’ll open up a bit. A few months back, I had a moment, ripe with reminders for myself. Epiphanies flooded me, and as they cascaded, I wrote them on my mirror. The picture above captured the result of that moment. It became a #notetoself I was happy to immortalize.

communicate.
be honest with yourself about who you are,
what you need, what you feel, what you think, what you see.
honor yourself. honor your truth. honor your perspective.
honor who you are. honor who you’ve been. honor who you’re becoming.

ending the war: “i love you still.”

Mar
24

Recently, I asked “do you talk about things that matter?” and today I experienced one of the most emotionally honest conversations I’ve ever had. Topics ranged from absentee fathers, sex, eating disorders, rape, molestation, relationships, education, socialization, etc. It was genuine, cathartic, comforting, inspiring and beautiful. So many times throughout the evening, I found myself smiling, feeling connected and understood as we discussed highly privatized events and feelings.

Sitting with this beautiful woman who spoke so candidly about her life, I felt inspired and reinvigorated, reminded that neither our stories nor our struggles are our own. We will all experience trials, intense pain, and loss. We will all walk with fears, insecurities, and moments of doubt. We will all struggle with some degree of feeling fragmented. These are inextricable parts of the human experience, but if you let pain harden your heart instead of soften it, you’ve missed the point.

As of two days ago, I made an important decision based upon a startling revelation. I’m ending the war with myself.

My #notetoself yesterday was:

“stop waging war with the one person who will always be there for you: yourself.
love is accepting, patient, and kind.”

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going for the gold? find it in the shadow.

Mar
10

Before I even understood it as a psychological concept, I’ve been intrigued by shadows. As a child, I’d always look at them. Even as an adult, I’ve continued to find their value and entertainment.

Although I began to understand the importance of unearthing my self and my truth two years ago, my interest didn’t consciously shift from something part of the external world to part of the internal world until last year when I asked myself, “do you need to see the worst of yourself in order to be the best of yourself?”

That question prompted an interest in the shadow that I’m now ready to explore. It’s scary. It’s exciting. An intuitive feeling informs me that this is a special time in my life.

Carl Jung said, “People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to stop from facing their souls.” I believe it. It’s taken me almost a year to begin the journey and I can only strongly intend to maintain course, no matter how uncomfortable it gets.

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Inspire: be yourself

Jul
10

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The other day, the message of the Kabbalah Tune-Up was:

If you want people to love you– who doesn’t — then show them your faults, not your virtues.

We are all afraid of this, especially us first born sons who bear the weight of the world on our shoulders. But honesty is all there is. We all feel messed up inside and when we see ourselves in others, we can connect and heal. And then we can get somewhere deeper.

Today, encourage people to be who they are by showing them who you are.

All too often, many of us hold back who we truly are, fearing how others will take us. The thing is you can’t compromise yourself and who you really are, nor should you be apologetic about who you are. None of us is for everyone.  All opposites don’t attract; many repel.

When we’ve put the worst on the table, everything else is so much more palatable. After all, it’s the ‘undesirable’ elements we’re so afraid will drive people away.  Yet none of us are perfect and sometimes the things we’re not too fond of in ourselves are appreciated by others; that isn’t necessarily a good or bad thing.  The reality is that when we’re open and honest about who we are and what we want, in our words and our being, we are able to better align ourselves with others with others who, in their words and being, can support and facilitate our visions for ourselves and our lives.

For varying reasons, some parts of our selves stay in our shells.  I’ve found that other people’s openness and honesty inspires me to be less reserved about sharing parts of my personality.

Inspire someone today to be themselves by being yourself.  You may never even know if your doing so touches anyone, but rest assured–it does.