What My World's Like

abbey lincoln on love, marriage and polyamory.

Nov
06


http://youtu.be/ZokBQsC4AdA

Great words: Sandra Cisneros

Nov
23

“Okay, we didn’t work, and all
memories to tell you the truth aren’t good.
But sometimes there were good times.
Love was good. I loved your crooked sleep
beside me and never dreamed afraid.

There should be stars for great wars like ours.

– Sandra Cisneros

ending the war: “i love you still.”

Mar
24

Recently, I asked “do you talk about things that matter?” and today I experienced one of the most emotionally honest conversations I’ve ever had. Topics ranged from absentee fathers, sex, eating disorders, rape, molestation, relationships, education, socialization, etc. It was genuine, cathartic, comforting, inspiring and beautiful. So many times throughout the evening, I found myself smiling, feeling connected and understood as we discussed highly privatized events and feelings.

Sitting with this beautiful woman who spoke so candidly about her life, I felt inspired and reinvigorated, reminded that neither our stories nor our struggles are our own. We will all experience trials, intense pain, and loss. We will all walk with fears, insecurities, and moments of doubt. We will all struggle with some degree of feeling fragmented. These are inextricable parts of the human experience, but if you let pain harden your heart instead of soften it, you’ve missed the point.

As of two days ago, I made an important decision based upon a startling revelation. I’m ending the war with myself.

My #notetoself yesterday was:

“stop waging war with the one person who will always be there for you: yourself.
love is accepting, patient, and kind.”

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master love…or die trying.

Feb
06

Love, forgiveness, and relationships have been occupying most of my mental space recently, which is why the last few posts have been about that. It’s the running theme of my life right now, and you can expect more inquiry and exploration in that department. I think it’s helpful for everyone.

On that note, I’m revisiting Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship. The third and seventh chapters, titled “The Man Who Didn’t Believe in Love” and “The Dream Master”, both struck a chord with me. I hope they offer something valuable to you as well. Click the links for transcripts of each chapter.

[audio:http://www.whatmyworldslike.com/audio/masteryoflovech3.mp3]
Don Miguel Ruiz’s Mastery of Love, chapter 3: “The Man Who Didn’t Believe in Love”, 9:23

[audio:http://www.whatmyworldslike.com/audio/masteryoflovech7.mp3]
Don Miguel Ruiz’s Mastery of Love, chapter 7: “The Dream Master”, 4:19

A little bit of random: reminders

Aug
07
  • I’ve heard “you have not because you ask not.”  Maybe we should append “you have not because you don’t appreciate.”
  • Trite yet forgotten wisdom: it’s not about what you say, but what you show.  Actions really do speak louder than words. 
  • Everyone who is in your life has the option to be there or not.  Respect their decision and appreciate it accordingly. 
  • “Life is a theater. Invite your audience carefully.” – DJ Krush
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CHALLENGE: foresighted retrospection

Jul
27

walking-away

 

Nothing lasts forever. While we know this, how much do we keep it mind as we move through our daily lives?

Recently, I’ve been contemplating the gross disintegration and looming demise of one of my most impactful relationships to date. As useless as it often is, regret sometimes enters my mind and I wonder how much time was wasted trifling over the more frivolous details as opposed to enjoying and celebrating the great aspects of the relationship. But what if you could use regret–beforehand?

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We Think Radio: “I love you two”

Apr
15

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DATE: April 15, 2009
TIME: 10pm/9pm EST/CST
WHERE: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TheThinkMovement
CALL-IN #: (347) 237-5362

TONIGHT’S TOPICS: Tune in and join the discussion as we examine polyamory, the practice of having multiple open romantic relationships. Who’s built for it? Is it the ideal? Is marriage overrated or antiquated?