your inner world rules your outer world.

August 8, 2012 | filed under #notetoself, consider this, pay attention, rewritable words, thoughts | Leave a Comment 

This was originally posted on September 4, 2010.

Life is calling you. All the time. Do this. Do that. Don’t do anything at all. There’s always a fork in the road. Sometimes you don’t even know it’s there, but it is. Sometimes you hear it, see it, feel it…this urge…this moment that comes to visit briefly. It may whisper, it may shout, but it’s always saying something. Are you listening?

The perpetual, invisible fork is the following question: how are you going to respond? To what? To everything.

We allow the outer world to control our inner world because we don’t understand that the more we control our inner world, the more we control the outer world.  It often acts the other way around, but we’re so much more effective in our lives when we understand this.  The past few weeks have proven this to be true.

Out of nowhere, my job suddenly became a place I slightly dreaded. I wasn’t even fully aware of it, but I noticed it when I realized time was my obsession. “What time is it?” and “how much longer will I be here?” Sure signs of danger. Everyone and everything was a problem and I played the victim to all the haphazard incidents and wrongdoings.

When somebody/everybody else is always the problem, maybe the problem is really you.

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Imaginary drama and the art of positive possibility

July 17, 2009 | filed under consider this, inspiring, rewritable words | 3 Comments 

While worth its weight in gold, the smile will actually make you feel lighter.

“Find the good. Be inspired.” That’s the tag of this blog and the direction I’m headed in. So why do I often times think of worst case scenarios? Not the average “this could happen, and then that would happen,” internally narrated scenarios. No. I go so far as to think of actual conversations. I determine what someone would say to me and, accordingly, what I–with all my fervor and fury–would say back to them.

At times, it’d get out of hand because I’d really get worked up about it. Then, I started checking myself with a gentle reminder that none of this has actually manifested, but that getting so worked up that my emotional state changes could possibly prompt other contentious situations. The calm would return and life would continue as it was–in reality.

The trigger is usually something small and relatively unimportant, but it’d turn into a big dramatic scene in my head. Why? Because I would anticipate the worst. Go for whatever hair-raising scenario I could create and mentally strike back. This tactic is so completely counterproductive to my proclaimed philosophy.

“Find the good. Be inspired.” is essentially about the art of positive possibility in creating meaning. Read more