What My World's Like

Mind control, focus, and reflection

Feb
24

naikan

Recently, I’ve been more focused on self-mastery.  So many of us are reactionary and that’s part of the reason why so many people aren’t happy with their lives–because there isn’t a strong enough sense of control.

The one thing we can control, even if it doesn’t necessarily seem that way, is our reactions.  In order to effectively do this, we need to exercise control over our thoughts and feelings.  It’s no small feat, but one I’m sure is certainly worth the undertaking.

Ever since seeing Revolutionary Road, I’ve been keenly aware of the path I’m on and what its limitations are.  There’s a certain way I’d like to live my life and I’m not even sure how much I’d truly enjoy my life if I got everything I think I want without a change in the way I approach life.

Therefore, I’ve been making some changes.

One change is in my level of gratitude, simply appreciating what in my life I understand as good.  Looking for the good has forced me to find some sort of lesson in my daily experiences.  Doing so has, even in this short amount of time, enhanced my level of personal accountability.

Today, I found this short article on Naikan, a Japanese method of self-reflection, hinged on 3 questions:

1. What have I received?

2. What have I given?

3. What trouble have I caused?

Self-reflection is the most important aspect of personal growth.  I’ll be working to answer these questions daily.

I’m inspired!

Jan
21

Last week, I was fortunate enough to see a screening of Revolutionary Road and immediately came to some conclusions about myself and my life. Some have said that this movie is depressing. I have to say that I found it inspiring because the life they led was depressing. For the person that’s fixed on the idea of living as they see fit or for the one with ambitions of an extraordinary life, Revolutionary Road urges you to get on course ASAP. Two young lovers set on having remarkable lives outside of “the hopeless emptiness” look up oneday and find that their existence is mundane, trite, and dull. He was too scared to go beyond what he knew to find his true niche, while she felt trapped by the 1950s conventions.

I realize how much I’ve let fear and insecurities impede my ability to move forward with following my passions and doing what I want to do, ultimately, to allow me to have the life I want. If I maintain course as Leonardo DiCaprio’s character, I’ll be just like him or his wife…scared, stuck, and miserable. I find neither fate acceptable.

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