Great words: Sandra Cisneros

November 23, 2012 | filed under rewritable words | 2 Comments 

“Okay, we didn’t work, and all
memories to tell you the truth aren’t good.
But sometimes there were good times.
Love was good. I loved your crooked sleep
beside me and never dreamed afraid.

There should be stars for great wars like ours.

– Sandra Cisneros



friends and lovers

February 3, 2011 | filed under consider this, inspiring | 6 Comments 

There’s a couple I’ve seen at my job a few times. One of the last times they came in, we started talking about my hair and the husband mentioned how his hair was when he was a teenager.

“It’s true. We were dating back then,” the wife said.

I asked how long they’d been together.

Thirty-four years.

“If you could give me just one key to making it last, what would it be?” I asked.

The wife looked at the husband for a split second, then looked at me and said, “Be friends. We really like each other.”

“Lust is easy. Romance is easy. You have to really like the person, like who they are and enjoy being around them. All the other stuff is easy.” the husband added.

I just smiled as they talked. Then, the wife asked me if I had a boyfriend.

With a big smile, I said, “No, but I have a friend.”

I saw that same couple yesterday and made a point to tell them how often I think of their words. Turns out they were celebrating their anniversary, their daughter’s birthday, and the birth of their first grandchild. 🙂

Love is a beautiful imperative.



Great words: reconsider heartache

March 27, 2009 | filed under consider this, rewritable words | Leave a Comment 

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“If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have “loved and lost,” perish the thought. One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral, and transitory. It comes when it pleases, and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.

Dismiss, also, the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but there are no two love experiences which affect one in just the same way. There may be, and there usually is, one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart than all the others, but all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes its departure.

There should be no disappointment over love, and there would be none if people understood the difference between the emotions of love and sex. The major difference is that love is spiritual, while sex is biological. No experience, which touches the human heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance, or jealousy.

Love is, without question, life’s greatest experience.”

– Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

I truly believe that Hill’s words have the power to create a paradigm-shift that can free one from the pain of love ending. We so dearly cling to this illusion that much of the love we experience is supposed to last forever and that illusion is what causes so much of the hurt felt. Accept and enjoy what you have. Cherish what you had, and always look for — and find — the good: the pure moments of joy, comfort, pleasure, and learning.