What My World's Like

#notetoself: be considerate. build community.

Apr
27

how to build community written by the Syracuse Cultural Workers Collective

This is the seventh #notetoself letter, originally sent on March 19, 2012.

Five weeks ago, I arrived at Isla de Ometepe, Nicaragua specifically to work on a permaculture farm. Nearly everything I read about this island was that it was magical. That magic wasn’t fully expounded upon, so I hoped I’d figure out for myself what it was about. As I prepare to leave tomorrow, I realize I understand the gravitational pull this island has on one’s heart and mind from my experience in Balgue. I was actually supposed to leave a few days ago, but it didn’t feel right; I didn’t see it and I didn’t feel it. So I stayed.

During what was to be my final week here, I realized how embedded others had become in this community and how much I felt like I stood on the periphery, here and in it, yet removed at the same time. I wanted to be more of a part of it. There are some incredibly dynamic people here, funny, generous, cooperative… I didn’t want to leave feeling as disconnected as I did and wanted to forge a deeper bond, despite my imminent departure.

This same week, one of the long-term volunteers discovered that she had lice. That realization led to a sort of impromptu communal lice check. One of the women who found out she also had lice never had it before, so she was a bit freaked out. Her behavior after that discovery really impacted me.

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dreams + friends = success? well…

Nov
01

It’s important to have aspirations in life. Goals that stretch you to do more, be more, have more provide you with both challenges and opportunities. The challenges make you stronger and smarter and amongst the many opportunities that pop up, most important are the opportunities to manifest your dreams and to discover more about yourself in the process.

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CHALLENGE: foresighted retrospection

Jul
27

walking-away

 

Nothing lasts forever. While we know this, how much do we keep it mind as we move through our daily lives?

Recently, I’ve been contemplating the gross disintegration and looming demise of one of my most impactful relationships to date. As useless as it often is, regret sometimes enters my mind and I wonder how much time was wasted trifling over the more frivolous details as opposed to enjoying and celebrating the great aspects of the relationship. But what if you could use regret–beforehand?

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Inspire: be yourself

Jul
10

m151be-yourself-unknown-posters

The other day, the message of the Kabbalah Tune-Up was:

If you want people to love you– who doesn’t — then show them your faults, not your virtues.

We are all afraid of this, especially us first born sons who bear the weight of the world on our shoulders. But honesty is all there is. We all feel messed up inside and when we see ourselves in others, we can connect and heal. And then we can get somewhere deeper.

Today, encourage people to be who they are by showing them who you are.

All too often, many of us hold back who we truly are, fearing how others will take us. The thing is you can’t compromise yourself and who you really are, nor should you be apologetic about who you are. None of us is for everyone.  All opposites don’t attract; many repel.

When we’ve put the worst on the table, everything else is so much more palatable. After all, it’s the ‘undesirable’ elements we’re so afraid will drive people away.  Yet none of us are perfect and sometimes the things we’re not too fond of in ourselves are appreciated by others; that isn’t necessarily a good or bad thing.  The reality is that when we’re open and honest about who we are and what we want, in our words and our being, we are able to better align ourselves with others with others who, in their words and being, can support and facilitate our visions for ourselves and our lives.

For varying reasons, some parts of our selves stay in our shells.  I’ve found that other people’s openness and honesty inspires me to be less reserved about sharing parts of my personality.

Inspire someone today to be themselves by being yourself.  You may never even know if your doing so touches anyone, but rest assured–it does.