What My World's Like

‘Best Personal Blog’…?

Jun
02

This just in: Vernon from High Roadism nominated me for a Black Weblog Award in the ‘Best Personal Blog’ category. I’m thrilled, I’m honored, I’m humbled…I’m psyched! 🙂

If you read and you agree, I’d appreciate your vote for me here.

Either way, I’m excited and grateful and, as always, thank you for reading.

love&light...leandra

Is your love love?

Apr
27

black-couple-arguing

So much of our worlds are inherited. Often times, what we think about ourselves, about others, how we behave and cope with emotional stress, our expectations as it relates to career, love, and life in general, and so much more are all passed down to us from the people we interact with and from what we read or hear. Children are perfect little recorders of their environments. They pick up the vocabulary, the dialect, and all the subtleties of the human behavior surrounding them. Because of that, the emotional space a child grows up in plays a major role in how they experience and demonstrate their emotions throughout life.

My last relationship was my first adult relationship, and I went into it stumbling, wanting this love, yet very fearful. Much of the time we were together, instead of placing my trust in my partner and what we were building, I was afraid to really open myself up and let him in, let him know where I’d been and what I battled with. In being dishonest with myself, I was dishonest with him. I thought I knew how to love, but I didn’t. The reality was that I didn’t know how to love myself, so I didn’t know how to love him and I felt sort of inept the whole time we were together. Why couldn’t I open up? Why couldn’t I articulate my feelings? Why was I so afraid to be vulnerable and discuss my emotions? Why couldn’t I treat him the way he deserved to be treated?

One word: dysfunction. I was dysfunctional.

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What My World Sounds Like: Bilal Salaam

Feb
24

I just took the time to listen to Bilal Salaam. It was a good idea.

Here’s “Razor Tongue” off of his Langue De Rasoir (animated by TMelchishua), reminding us to be careful of the words we choose to use with others. The idea can be extended to how we talk to ourselves. Our words can create, build, destroy, hurt, and heal. Let’s be mindful.

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Happiness and self-love

Feb
17

happiness

Last week, I served as a facilitator for an all-girl middle school retreat and presented a workshop on joy. It was such an awesome experience that really lightened my heart. I felt like I was doing what I was supposed to be doing.

Considering my audience, I decided to create a workshop on happiness. Middle school was one of the most hellish phases of my life, with far-reaching ramifications that extended far beyond the secondary education phase. Well, it turns out middle school just might be hellish for a lot of folks. I wanted to share some of what I’ve learned with them in hopes of it being impactful, sticking, and prevent some of the self-esteem battering so many of us experience at that age.

Middle schoolers aren’t the only ones struggling to be happy, though, so I figured I’d post something about it.

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Monday Motivation: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Aug
10

Moving towards positivity and possibility

Jul
31

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Change starts with us; it starts within. I started What My World’s Like out of a desire and a need to continually see positivity and positive progression. That external change begins internally. There’s a reciprocal relationship between people and culture; each shapes the other. However, culture only changes when the people interacting with that culture change. If we desire to see a more sustainable, positive, and progressive culture, we need to become sustainable, positive, and progressive people, individually and collectively.

In his Pedagogy of the Oppressed, Brazilian educator Paulo Freire argues that the fully human act upon and transform their world.  He, at great length, discusses the cyclical nature of oppression as manifested via current pedagogies.  Oppressed people oppress.  Their idea of the fully human individual is their oppressor, so in an attempt to realize their full humanity, they become what they despised.  Just like with oppression, there is a cyclical nature to negativity, positivity, and possibility.  Negativity begats negativity, positivity begats positivity, and possibility begats possibility.

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The art of possibility

Jul
09

if you choose to dwell in negativity, you don't want your circumstances to change. choose possibility and take action.

What My World Sounds Like: Maxwell

May
04

Maxwell. Love him. The other day, I found myself listening to his Unplugged album and wondering when he was going to release his new album BLACKsummers’snight. All I had was this snippet of “Pretty Wings” that I love so much, I gladly play on repeat until it’s played a good twenty times or so. Imagine the grand surprise in store when I found the video and saw that the single was available for download on iTunes. It cost $1.29, which prompted a “what the…?” but I still bought it. That dollar was spent well. 🙂

Enjoy both the video and the song.

Time will bring the real end of our trial
One day there’ll be no remnants, no trace,
No residual feelings within you
One day you won’t remember me.

Your face will be the reason I smile
But I will not see what I cannot have forever
I’ll always love you.
I hope you feel the same.

Oh, you played me dirty, your game was so bad
You toyed with my affliction
Had to fill out my prescription for the remedy
I had to set you free.

Away from me
To see clearly
The way that love can be
when you are not with me
I had to leave
I had to live
I had to lead
I had to live

If I can’t have you
Let love set you free
To fly your pretty wings around.

Pretty wings, your pretty wings, your
Pretty wings. Pretty wings around.

I came wrong you were right
Transformed your love into like.
Baby believe me, I’m sorry I told you lies.
I turned day into night
Sleep till I die a thousand times
Ah, I should’ve showed you
Better nights, better times, better days
And I miss you more and more

If I can’t have you
Let love set you free
To fly your pretty wings around.

Pretty wings, your pretty wings, your
Pretty wings. Pretty wings around.

Pretty wings, your pretty wings, your
Pretty wings. Pretty wings around.

What My World Sounds Like – “Digging a Ditch” & “I love you”

Apr
07

For the past few weeks, I’ve been neglecting doing some necessary “releasing.” I’ve learned that in order to find the good, obviously, we have to let go of the perceived “bad”, i.e. regrets from the past, anxious worries about the future, self-imposed limitations, etc.

On my way home from the gym, I turned to Dave’s Busted Stuff. In addition to the lyrics and the mood of this song, I absolutely adore the saxophone played by the late LeRoi Moore.

Dave Matthews Band – “Digging a Ditch”
[audio:http://www.whatmyworldslike.com/audio/diggingaditch.mp3]

Run to your dreaming
When you’re alone
Unplug the TV, turn off your phone
Get heavy on with digging your ditch

Cause I’m digging a ditch where madness gives a bit
Digging a ditch where silence lives
Digging a ditch for when I’m old
Digging this ditch my story’s told

Where all these troubles
That weigh down on me will rise
Run to your dreaming
When you’re alone
Where all these questions
Spinnin’ around my head
Will die, will die, will die…

Run to your dreaming
When you’re alone
Unplug the TV, turn off your phone
Get heavy on with digging your ditch

Cause I’m digging a ditch where madness gives a bit
Digging a ditch where silence lives
Digging a ditch when I am through
Digging this ditch I’ll dig in for you
Where all these worries
Weigh it down on me will rise
Where all these habits
Pull heavy at my heart
will die

Run to your dreaming
When you’re alone
Not what you should be or what you’ve become
Just get heavy on with digging your ditch

Cause I’m digging a ditch where madness gives a bit
Digging a ditch where silence lives
Where all these dissapointments, grow angry out of me
Will rise…
Will die…
Will die…
Will die…

Run to your dreaming
When you’re alone
Unplug the TV
And turn off your phone
Get heavy on with digging your ditch

As a bonus, enjoy the lovely sound of Esthero. This woman’s voice is amazing. If we were around each other and she decided to sing all day, I’d let her. She’s that good. Kudos to her for the line, “There might have been a face before, but it was never as beautiful as yours.”

Esthero – “I Love You”
[audio:http://www.whatmyworldslike.com/mymusic/tunes/iloveyou.mp3]

I’m co-hosting We Think Radio!

Mar
04

wethinkradio

Tonight is a special night for me as We Think Radio premiered at 11/10 pm EST/CST. I co-hosted with best selling author j. saKiya Sandifer.  Naturally, it was thought-provoking, engaging, and entertaining.  The purpose was simple: to spark those seeking to create a positive change in their lives.

We discussed special needs children, valid reasons for having children, the selfishness/selflessness of creativity, and justifiable “domestic violence.”

In case you missed it, hear it now:
[audio:http://www.whatmyworldslike.com/radio/episode1.mp3]