Is your love love?

April 27, 2010 | filed under consider this, pay attention | 5 Comments 


So much of our worlds are inherited. Often times, what we think about ourselves, about others, how we behave and cope with emotional stress, our expectations as it relates to career, love, and life in general, and so much more are all passed down to us from the people we interact with and from what we read or hear. Children are perfect little recorders of their environments. They pick up the vocabulary, the dialect, and all the subtleties of the human behavior surrounding them. Because of that, the emotional space a child grows up in plays a major role in how they experience and demonstrate their emotions throughout life.

My last relationship was my first adult relationship, and I went into it stumbling, wanting this love, yet very fearful. Much of the time we were together, instead of placing my trust in my partner and what we were building, I was afraid to really open myself up and let him in, let him know where I’d been and what I battled with. In being dishonest with myself, I was dishonest with him. I thought I knew how to love, but I didn’t. The reality was that I didn’t know how to love myself, so I didn’t know how to love him and I felt sort of inept the whole time we were together. Why couldn’t I open up? Why couldn’t I articulate my feelings? Why was I so afraid to be vulnerable and discuss my emotions? Why couldn’t I treat him the way he deserved to be treated?

One word: dysfunction. I was dysfunctional.

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Great words…

July 2, 2009 | filed under rewritable words | Leave a Comment 

“When we recognize that unity of all living things,
then at once arises the question —
how can we support this life of ours
with the least injury to the lives around us;
how can we prevent our own life
adding to the suffering of the world
in which we live?”

– Annie Besant

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who
points out how the strong man stumbles or
where the doer of deeds could have done them
better. The credit belongs to the man who is
actually in the arena, whose face is marred by
dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly,
who errs and comes short again and again
because there is no effort without error and
shortcomings, who knows the great devotion,
who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at
best knows in the end the high achievement
of triumph and who at worst, if he fails while
daring greatly, knows his place shall never be
with those timid and cold souls who know
neither victory nor defeat.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

Press on

May 12, 2009 | filed under inspiring, rewritable words | Leave a Comment 

Sometimes, it’s easy to feel like your efforts go unnoticed. Discovering otherwise always produces a small boost.

“Just wanted to let you know that your mere existence makes the world a better place. Love your blog. Keep Smiling! Continue to inspire and the world will open up its greatness to you.”

Thank you, Gerard from Illinois. Made my day.